Have you ever said, out loud or thought to yourself, “I’ll be happy when…” (Fill in the blank)? When I get the love of my life, the money in the bank, retire, the house, the car, the job or reach the magic number on the scale?
You’re not alone! Many hold a belief that if you can only get that whatever it is, your life will be complete. And, you will be happy, at last.
As long as you decide that only by getting that what you want will bring you happiness, you are living less than fulfilled, and probably sad and frustrated. Waiting until “when” is what keeps you from even getting to that goal, dream, or desire. Because you’re looking at what you don’t have instead of focusing on what’s going on right now.
And what happens sometimes is that when you finally get that one thing, guess what? It isn’t enough. Whatever you finally got has its own set of problems, or maybe you find out it wasn’t what you wanted at all! I can relate to this one!
The happiest people are those who feel in control of life. They live according to their own values and don’t allow people, places, and things to dictate how they feel and how they act. They know what they want, but they can let go of outcomes and not be dictated by what they don’t have.
“You are happy to the degree that you believe you are in control of your own life. You are unhappy to the degree to which you feel you are not in control or controlled by other factors or people.” –Brian Tracy
One of the most important pieces in personal coaching is helping women to change perspective—to look at things through a different lens. Instead of thinking that only this one thing or person is responsible for your happiness, you can learn to figure out why you want it so badly, and why you believe you cannot be truly happy without it.
Breaking through the barriers of resistance–the thoughts and behaviors– that keep your joy dependent on outside sources will allow you to seek a higher place—God and inside of you—for wisdom, answers, and a deep knowing that all is well right here, right now.
What is it that has kept you from going forward in your life while you wait for that “somewhere over the rainbow?”
The best feeling in the world is peace of mind and spirit, knowing that you are in control of your own happiness, your own life!
If this resonated with you, please leave comments below or contact me at Yolanda@yolandagray.com I’d love to hear from you.
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