Have you ever been so excited about doing something good for yourself? Maybe you’ve decided to take an exercise class, get involved in a social or personal development group, commit to making healthy meals every night—whatever it is, you always start out with so much enthusiasm! You’re thrilled to finally get started on your plan.

This time you mean it; you will do this!

You give it your best effort, but quickly find that life’s issues edge out the promise you made to yourself. The commitment gets buried under the frantic lifestyle you’ve lived for so long. Once again you’re feeling out of control, unable to stay with it.

Trying to do it all and take care of you can lead to overwhelm. When you’re in overwhelm, you can’t think to take the best action; you’re on auto-pilot, going from one situation to another without determining if it’s the most important thing to do or making the time for that thing you were so excited about.

You’re exhausted because you can’t keep up with it all, and now there’s no time for healthy eating, exercise or nourishing your mind and soul—self-care.

“Overwhelm is a signal from your unconscious mind telling you to do one thing: Prioritize.”

As women we spend so much time meeting the needs of others and the demands of the world, those plans you made to finally take care of you can quickly fade from thrilled to killed.” Hey, what happened?” you may wonder.

Once again, you have given up on what you need and given in to the demands of others, of life. You might believe that you have no control over what happens, so you just quit taking care of you and get back to the status quo–sadly.

You may not think so, but when you take care of yourself first, you are better equipped to control your time and energy.

You can figure out what’s most important instead of trying to do it all at the expense of your health, your desires, and needs. And those around you benefit from a vibrant, healthy you as well.

It isn’t easy to “mind shift” from feeling like “this is just the way it is and always will be” to figuring out how you can get out of overwhelm and back in control of your life.

You need:

1. Desire—a strong one—to say I will learn to take care of my needs first.
2. Strategy– If you’ve always done things the same way, the old ways won’t work to get you what you want and need. You’ll need a plan.
3. Guidance—someone or a group who can lead you through the process of change.
4. Faith to believe you can make the changes necessary to take back your life.
5. A commitment to seeing the process through until you’re finally living what I call “out loud” –authentic, confident and in control.

Change happens inside. As you take the steps to wholeness, you will find yourself living the life God meant for you—fulfilled and in peace.