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Sometimes you can see trouble brewing.

September 10, 2019 By Yolanda Gray 1 Comment

Sometimes you can see trouble brewing.

The hurricane that ripped up an entire island, leaving death and ruin in its wake will be felt for years to come and, for some, the sadness and pain will forever hold painful reminders of that day.

It’s difficult to prepare for large scale loss, waiting for the worst. You don’t know until it happens how bad it will be. And sometimes heeding suggested recommendations for survival aren’t enough. There is nowhere to go.

With this storm there was a warning. Predictions by the weather forecasters called it massive and powerful.

When earthquakes hit like they have at times in California, they just come, rumbling, swaying. What do you do?  There is no meteorologist tracking its arrival. Boom! It hits. And sometimes, as quickly as it comes, it goes with very little damage; at other times with destruction and death.

The storms of life are like that too.  Sometimes you can see trouble brewing.

You anticipate from past experience what’s going to happen. You prepare by making sure you have what you need to ride it out; or get out. You know how to handle what’s coming.

But other times you’re blindsided. Going along your busy life, bam it hits, you get cheated on or betrayed, lied about, bullied, or abused. You lose jobs, homes, health, and your dignity at times. And sometimes you lose loved ones.

And isn’t that how the storms of life come in sometimes, fast and furious?

On September 11, we remember a storm of evil we never saw coming—the unimaginable. In the midst of the incomprehensible tragedy, this country faced the beast and came together to rise above the literal ashes of one of the worst days in history.

America was never the same again. She was changed forever. And like the storms that come at you in life, as you go through the reality and pain of each situation, you are changed.

I remember a professor saying, “We are all a phone call away from tragedy.”

Sometimes you’re prepared and other times you will be caught off guard. The call that came one October night in 2004 was expected. It wasn’t easy to say goodbye to my dad, but the reality was he would soon be gone, and all of us would rally together, changed forever.

When the storms come, and they will, remember, you don’t have to go through these times alone. Reach out to God, reach out to others, and as the storm passes, remember you will rise above the ashes, healed and whole.

He gives beauty for ashes, strength for fear, gladness for mourning, peace for despair. (Isaiah 61:3)

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Living abundantly, authentically and in alignment

August 5, 2019 By Yolanda Gray Leave a Comment

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Living abundantly is a gift. It comes when you’re aligned with God’s purpose, His will. Your life takes on a whole new dynamic. Are you ready for it?

True joy is not a by-product of getting what we want; if you aren’t happy now, getting that person, place or thing may bring happy, but it won’t last. I always thought if only I could….have this, that whatever (or whoever), then, and only then would I really be happy.

But no, it either turned out to be a disaster or left me wanting for more or different.

It was only by the long, difficult process of allowing God to transform my thinking and become clear about how I saw myself through His eyes–my true self– did I begin to experience true fulfillment and joy.

It wasn’t easy. When I gave up the security of a career for a life I knew that I knew I was called to, I struggled with the financial insecurity, the doubts of whether I was fit enough for the task, and if it was really God’s purpose for me. I had already invested many years and an enormous amount of money in education to secure a position in my chosen field.

We were all created God’s purpose–and when you’re in the flow it, there is no place you’d rather be. Aligned with your core values (how God designed you), you begin to find true “happiness” (joy).

Living abundantly is a gift. It comes when you’re aligned with God’s purpose, His will. Your life takes on a whole new dynamic.

Your happiness is not driven by externals. You are happy because you know who you are and where you’re going.

 As I let go of the fear and insecurity of the unknown, it got a little crazy. Why? Because it was unfamiliar. I was out of my comfort zone. As I have settled into the unknown and fulfilled life, God has been faithful to show me that all is well even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Take a few moments to think about what’s most important to you. Write down your top five to ten values. Then answer these three questions:

1. Are you living in alignment with your values? Does what you say is important resonate with your daily actions? 
2. Is there something you want to accomplish that may take some time and you don’t know how to get to it?
3. How would it feel to know that you’re living true to you; in alignment with God?

The key to freedom and abundant life (John 10:10) is surrender and commitment. Surrendering to God’s will and committing to living aligned with it.

When you’re in this zone, there is nowhere else you’d rather be. And with it comes the vision of all you ever imagined. (Ephesians 3:20)

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams!

So, are you living true to your values, in alignment with God’s purpose? Let me know.

 

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Get off the hamster wheel!

May 7, 2019 By Yolanda Gray 2 Comments

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It was God’s will, right?

July 17, 2018 By Yolanda Gray Leave a Comment

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Have you ever wanted something (or someone) so badly that you just knew if it didn’t happen for you, life would just not be complete? The more you thought about that one thing, the more convinced you became that this was God’s will for you. It was your dream and you knew it was meant to be.

Then it didn’t happen. Or it did, but not in the way you had fantasized? Now, you’re thinking, what was I thinking? Why did I think this one thing was going to fulfill my destiny? Make my life complete?

Was this really God’s will or something I “hoped” was His will?

Oh, let me count the times I pushed, pulled, and manipulated results that ultimately ended up disastrous when I finally got whatever it was that, at the time, was going to bring me life and joy.

I placed my identity, my worth, on the ideal that I conjured in my mind. That thing or person would complete me, not my life, but actually me as a human being.

No wonder I always fell short. No wonder after I finally got what I so desperately sought, I would feel empty, cheated, unworthy.

red head lady with face to sun thinking

This happened in my career, relationships with men, possessions, even in the striving for a certain physical appearance. All of it defined me and always let me down.

And to cover that disappointment and pain, I would resort to “feel-good, short-term” solutions like overeating, overdrinking, over-you-name-it.

It wasn’t until I began the journey back to God that I finally realized that I have value as a person simply because He created me.

And that I could have whatever I wanted in this life. It would only require that I count the cost. Would I be required to go against TRUTH and my most authentic self? When I answered this and other questions I could courageously venture toward the goal, the dream.

And it was okay, no matter how it turned out because the thing itself did not identify me.

And knowing God’s will? I only know for certain that He loves me. And, if I ask for help, it comes in the form of angels with skin on—those people who guide me on the road to freedom, a peaceful spirit, love and myself.  I also make time to be still, to listen to the small voice inside. 

Can you relate to this? If so, please, let me know. I’d really like to hear from you.

It’s never too late to Take Back Your Life! You are so worth it!

Filed Under: Personal growth, Spiritual growth

The Myth: 60 is the new 40

May 14, 2018 By Yolanda Gray Leave a Comment

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60 is the new 40 and other myths about aging

Some even say 60 is the new 30.  I say tell my body that!  

The quest for eternal youth isn’t new to our culture. With a number of us approaching or well into the senior years, there seems to be an increasing struggle to maintain a youthful appearance. It’s part of our youth-obsessed culture, and it doesn’t seem to be going away anytime soon.

The anti-aging industry has risen to the demand for eternal youth, or the appearance of it, to become a multi-billion dollar force in our country. They’re giving us what we want in the way of procedures and potions.

While I was in grad school in my 50’s I studied the aging of the American woman and its impact on increasing depression and substance abuse issues in women over 50.

My research revealed that when women are satisfied with life when their identity isn’t tied to how young they look, but how good they feel—that healthy self-esteem and confidence that comes from deeper spiritual and emotional work—the number of years becomes insignificant compared to their enthusiasm for life.

When we engage with others in meaningful relationships, life-enriching activities (fun included), and a sense of purpose, we can stop chasing the elusive 60 is the new 30 social construct and respond to our bodies with love and kindness. That means we can take care of our emotional, physical and spiritual health and reap the benefits well into older age.

There has never been a time when we can re-assess and re-invent the next stage of life as today. Look around—women are boldly taking control of their lives. They’re building businesses; volunteering where their heart leads, and doing all the things they finally have time for!

woman on bench looking at ocean blue green waterFrom my view, I see more women getting into what stimulates, inspires and moves them. Retirement from a long-held job position means time to plan another great adventure.

Am I getting rid of my lotions and potions anytime soon? No, but I’m not chasing the dragon of the next big thing to look like a younger me (there are two things women can’t hide; one of them is age).

Instead, I’m dedicating time and energy to my life’s mission of helping the next woman to take back her life!  I am so excited that my life experience and training can show women that they do have what it takes to live a fulfilled and prosperous life when they let go of what they can’t control (growing older) and focus on what they can —finding meaning and happiness today. Click here for more.

I’m taking time to see my grandkids, spend time with my friends and husband, and making sure I live this one life God gave me to the fullest.

How about you? If you’re under 50, how are you feeling about the aging process? How about you Boomers? I’d love to hear from you.

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Yolanda is a certified holistic life coach with a bachelor’s of science in human development and a master of arts in human relations. Over 17 years of experience in creating and facilitating workshops in the areas of personal and spiritual growth and alcohol recovery using the 12-step model. She is a skilled presenter, workshop and retreat facilitator and speaker who can actively engage her audience for a power-filled, enlightening experience.
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