Have you ever bought into the notion that you are okay just the way you are? I mean, maybe you are. But if you know that you know that something (or you) needs to get different, then what are you buying into?
I have grown weary of all the cheerleaders telling us, “Hey, you’re good. No worries, you’ve got this, life is good.” But you’re not, and it isn’t.
For years, I sat through countless conferences and heard speakers encourage, inspire, and tell me I was okay.
I wanted to believe in all the hype.
No, I wasn’t. I was so into the pit of depression, alcoholism, and a depleted spirit.
The truth was I didn’t want to tell anyone. I was so ashamed that I didn’t feel like everyone else appeared: happy, joyous, and freely living out life.
I had Jesus. I read my Bible. I went to church. I prayed. I taught Sunday school. I did all the right things and more.
And, yet, I never felt okay.
After years of suffering in my own soup, I figured out that I can get knowledge and still not know how to apply it. I end up wondering why it wasn’t working for me.
I finally realized something about change—it’s an inside job, and I need a plan of action for the life I want to live. It started (and continues) with these three things:
I have grown weary of all the cheerleaders telling us, “Hey, you’re good. No worries, you’ve got this, life is good.” But you’re not, and it isn’t.
For years, I sat through countless conferences and heard speakers encourage, inspire, and tell me I was okay.
I wanted to believe in all the hype.
No, I wasn’t. I was so into the pit of depression, alcoholism, and a depleted spirit.
The truth was I didn’t want to tell anyone. I was so ashamed that I didn’t feel like everyone else appeared: happy, joyous, and freely living out life.
I had Jesus. I read my Bible. I went to church. I prayed. I taught Sunday school. I did all the right things and more.
And, yet, I never felt okay.
After years of suffering in my own soup, I figured out that I can get knowledge and still not know how to apply it. I end up wondering why it wasn’t working for me.
I finally realized something about change—it’s an inside job, and I need a plan of action for the life I want to live. It started (and continues) with these three things:
- An awareness— the “wake-up” call that hits when you know the jig is up. You can’t keep doing the same things over and over, expecting different results. In recovery circles, this is known as “insanity.”
- A strategy. Again, if you’re doing the same things–buying books, programs, and degrees—and nothing changes, it may be because you need to know how to apply the knowledge and wisdom to your life.
- Accountability—I have always needed someone and a group of tight-lipped (confidential), wise, and experienced women to keep me on the path to fulfilling the will and purpose of God in my life. They first have to be women who are, themselves, disciples of Jesus on a mission. My part is to be transparent and open to being fully known and willing to change.
By the way, it’s the same thing with the Word. We can hear it but not understand; not know how to make it real in our lives. Being hearers but not doers. (James 1:22) Again, it’s usually because we don’t know how to apply spiritual principles. We hear Scripture as platitudes instead.
If we don’t do differently, we’ll keep listening to sermons and speakers, those who want to tell us how to live our best life without really giving us what we need to do this.
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Yolanda is a certified Professional Life Coach. She holds an MA in Human Relations. She is a skilled presenter, with over 20 years as a workshop facilitator, creator and leader of the Refresh Retreat, and speaker equipping, encouraging, and energizing women to know and fulfill God’s plan and purpose in their lives.
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