As women who spend so much time meeting the needs of others and the demands of the world, we sometimes get so far away from ever stopping to ask what do I want, what do I need, who am I? Who has time for that, right?
So days, months, and years go by. You plan your goals, make your resolutions for the New Year, and then a few weeks in, you discover so much of what you had on that list has been forgotten in the vast space you call life. Living in the urgent, you don’t take time, or make time, to just be.
You can make plans and goals for your future every year, but if they are not aligned with the real you, you will not have created the very best for your life. You may even find yourself in roles that don’t “fit” –over and over again.
For me, it was 18 years in corrections—wearing the uniform and in other capacities—I went through the motions, telling myself to suck it up, it’s a great-paying job with retirement and health benefits—which I really needed because that’s what happens when you stay too long out of alignment with your true self.
Burned out with health issues, relationships suffering, every day became one rolling stream of time that blended with the next day and the next. Mentally, I was in depression. Physically, I was pushing myself to look good on the outside; spiritually, I was dead inside. It’s difficult to even plan for goals and dreams in this state.
I had been whoever you needed or wanted me to be. I didn’t understand that when I was created, my God designed me for good, for love, for peace and for a life based on desires from deep within. In survival mode most of the time, I would just blend in, do what I needed to do, and keep moving from one bad choice to another.
“…, my God designed me for good, for love, for peace and for live a life based on desires from deep within my spirit.”
I attained goals that I set for myself, but they weren’t based on what I was designed for. I had to find out who I was through guided discovery from both, earthly and spiritual places. Working with mentors and practitioners I learned to listen to what I call my God voice, trusting it, and moving toward my real self. It’s been an ongoing trek, one that continues every day.
I was finally able to break free from damaging relationships and work situations and began to carve out a life based on my God-given personality; my core values.—Then I discovered my strengths or gifts and all of life became different. I could see beyond the fear, the self-doubt, the lies I adopted about myself and the world.
“The desire to live authentically in our God-created uniqueness is a spiritual desire.” David Benner, author
Take a look at your 2017 resolutions. If you didn’t put on the list, “discover me”, I would like to suggest that you put this one at the top of your plans. Do you know what your strengths are, what gifts you have to share, who God designed you to be?
Coaching is designed to guide you to self-discovery. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. It makes the journey so much easier!
When you finally get to a place of knowing who you are and where you’re going, all the other areas of your life will begin to fall into place and you will begin to move in the direction of the plans that are uniquely yours—fully aware and fully alive.
Make 2017 the year of discovering you!