Do you know what it means to “pull yourself up by your bootstraps?” Sit down and try it–if your boots don’t have straps, use your sandals.
Ever hear the old saying “Pull yourself up by your bootstraps.” When a person finds herself in a desperate situation, unable to find a solution, someone might come along and say, “Hey, you’ve just got to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.” Sometimes this was a well-meaning friend or a mean friend, whichever, that was the best advice you got.
What it means is to “improve your situation by your own efforts without any help from other people”* –imagine grabbing the straps of your sandals and actually pulling yourself off the ground. Really?
I don’t know maybe you can levitate.
The phrase implies that you are supposed to do something! It’s all up to you, and if you don’t get XYZ, then you’ve failed when in reality, you couldn’t pull yourself up, let alone levitate yourself out.
Sometimes it comes in the form of shaming. Why are you in that seemingly hopeless (name it) situation—“You’re just going to have to “just pull yourself up…” Maybe you have a goal or dream that you’re about to give up on because you haven’t been able to get it done and you’re thinking “just pull yourself up…”
Anything I ever wanted in this life, anything that was important to my personal growth and health, any dream I’ve had (and the ones that are still out there) required seeking help, expertise, and then I had to settle down and do the work required.
Sometimes this came after hitting the wall. That’s when you’ve tried all that you know to do, and still no results; you’re left feeling defeated and frustrated. It’s like you’re trying to levitate!
If you’re huffing and puffing to pull yourself up by the sandal straps and you’re still down on the ground, worn out from the effort and still hoping that somehow if you work hard enough, you’ll finally get up, stop.
Allow yourself the gift of help from someone who can help pull you up. Let go of the sandal straps.